Wearing a bow tie is not as scary or pretentious as some may say. Find the confidence to try new or classic things that gives you automatic membership to the Gentleman’s club and gives you access to the cool guy’s lounge. You demand a sense of honorable presence in whatever environment you’re in, yet a cool casual sense of comfort-ability.
Add some weight to the bow by choosing seasonal fabrics such as wool or tweed. Have it compliment the look, not overpower. Your date will appreciate it (shows you have character), your boss will look at you in a different light (shows you think outside the box).